Hello. My Name in Jennifer Eaton. And I have a child with behavioral problems.
Whew! Getting that off my chest is HUGE. If you have a child with a behavior disorder, be it ADD, ADHD, or any of the myriad of other things out there, just admitting that there is a problem is a pretty big step in the right direction.
Since my youngest was two, he’s always been “a handful”. We kept waiting for him to get out of the terrible two’s. I used to joke about him still being in his terrible two’s at five.
At six, when his “bad” behavior started becoming violent… when his siblings began to get hurt, when he would scream at us and break things if he didn’t get his way… When I was afraid to sit beside him… when I cringed in fear when my son came near … we realized we had a problem.
We tried everything we could think of. But it just got worse.
I work full time at an office, and my husband works full time from home. He gets the worst of it. Near the “end” I would drive up and sit in the garage for a little while, preparing myself for what I would walk into. Sometimes I cried before even opening the door.
Our lives had become as close to Hell as I EVER wanted to come. Our family was being torn apart. We yelled at all of our children, not just the troubled one. My husband and I started to fight– and quite honestly only our values kept our marriage together.
One day, my husband left (again) just because he had to get away from the house. I understood. I don’t know how he keeps sane… but within half an hour my middle son was bleeding from an altercation with my youngest, and I was sprawled on the livingroom floor uncontrollably sobbing, with my oldest son holding me, himself in tears.
This had become my life. Lost, alone, and hurting with nowhere to turn.
That night, we contacted a child psychiatrist. I was horrified, because being medicine-phobic, I didn’t want to pump my son full of drugs, but I had to protect my family, both physically and mentally at that point, because my other children were being harmed emotionally now.
The psychiatrist told us he could have us come in for six sessions at $200 a session, and by the end of the sixth session … are you ready for this … “I will be able to tell you if I can help you or not.”
What????? $1200 just to evaluate him? Six more weeks of sinking further into Dante’s Inferno, and not even knowing if this is the right course of action?
My husband and I stewed over this for a few more horrible weeks. When one of my husband’s relatives neglected to invite us to a family party, and we found out it was because of our son, my husband lost it. Our lives were falling apart, and our family was hanging by a thread.
After much prayer and contemplation, and hearing the radio commercial for the Umteenth time (If that was you, God, sorry I didn’t call the number sooner) I contacted “The Total Transformation”.
I’d hesitated before, because my son was only 3, then 4, then 5, now six. I still was afraid that he was too young, but someone on the website said it worked for their six year old.
The package has arrived, and it is a workbook and a series of DVDs for a seven week program. For the price of two visits to the shrink, I have a whole program, and for an additional $50 a month, I have live professional help from 9 AM to 10 PM on weekdays (Which I plan on using a lot)
I listened to the first “Quick help” DVD, and tried out one of the solutions on one of my older kids. It sounded dumb, even coming out of my mouth, but my son blinked, looked at me for a minute, and then did exactly what I asked him to do.
It was a heck of a surprise!
Now, will it work on the problem child? Only time will tell. I’m not expecting a miracle, but I need to do something. I need to get my family back, and I need to save my son.
If you have a problem child, you are not alone. You may feel that way, but you are not.
We know this is going to be work. I’m not expecting a miracle overnight change. The next seven weeks are probably going to be the hardest weeks of our lives, but if we can get our family back… If we can stop walking on eggshells… if we can stop worrying about our children hurting each other, or breaking things, or even hurting US… wow… taking any one of those things out of our lives would be a step in the right direction.
I’m going to let you know how this works for me, because I KNOW there are others out there in situations like this. And if a stupid set of DVDs can give you your life back, then DERNIT I want to let you know about it.
I will fill you in as we go along.
Take a deep breath, and pray for us. We’re gonna need it.
Note: Other than buying this product, I am in no way connected to the Total Transformation, so if it stinks, I will be a fair judge. My husband and I have agreed to follow it exactly, and not take any shortcuts. Trust me… we can’t afford to. We need this to work.
- Lying to kids: Used for behavior issues but what’s the long term consequence? (doubtfulnews.com)
- 3 Misconceptions about ADHD I had to Forget to Survive (parentingwithoutmom.org)
- Auditory Processing Disorders in Children (healthyhearing.com)
- APD, ADD, ADHD and AD/HD: Personal and Scientific Reflections (healthyhearing.com)
- Youth Violence is a Family Therapy Issue (madinamerica.com)
- Not enough child psychiatrists means children in rural Maine go without treatment (bangordailynews.com)
- If At First You… (batyajacobsnt.wordpress.com)