Dealing with a child with behavioral issues: Our Journey with the Total Transformation #7

I just experienced a miracle – right in my own home.

I know it’s not Tuesday, and I usually don’t post at all on Wednesdays, but I needed to share this.

We just went through a very common occurrence in our household. Yes, it involved screaming, but what was different, is how it played out.  It was nothing less than a miracle.

My Nine-year-old came home from school today with a toy he received for something outstanding he’d done in class.  He was quite tickled with the prize, and loved the new toy.

My youngest loved the new toy too, and they both were playing nicely with it.  (Yes, a recipe for disaster, but I can’t not let them play together, can I?)

Anyway, long story short, my nine-year-old suddenly shrieks “He broke it!” and the tears started to flow.  I run to the scene of the crime, to see my youngest staring at the mess he’d made.  I could tell by the look on his face that he was stunned.  He had no intention of breaking the toy.

I immediately tried to defuse the impending breakdown by saying “I don’t think he did that on purpose.”

As I tried to calm the older child down, my youngest grabbed his head and started screaming and running up and down the hallway upstairs howling at the top of his lungs.

I had no idea what to do about that, so I consoled the older boy, saying that I didn’t think his brother meant to break it, and told him that his brother would buy him a new one.  He was sad, but okay with that.  I asked him for the wrapper so I could figure out where it came from, and while he was doing that, I reached for the phone to call the “help line” to find out what to do about the meltdown upstairs.

That’s when the miracle happened.  I suddenly realized it was quiet, and then I heard murmurings from the front hallway.  I peeked around the corner to see my sons hugging, and the older boy saying.  “I understand, and thanks.”

I watched as my youngest walked away.  My nine-year-old approached me, wiping a tear from his eye, and said, “He gave me his harmonica.”

My jaw hit the floor as he held up the little purple instrument.  You need to understand that the harmonica is so important to my youngest that it might as well be plated in gold.  That was HIS recent present from school for being good.  He SLEPT WITH THE DERN THING!

I said, “[Dude] do you realize how huge that was? He loves that thing.”

He nodded.  “Yeah, Mom. He also said he was really sorry.”

Do you wanna read that again?  I do.

“He also said he was really sorry.”

My youngest slunk in the other door, and I showered him with hugs, and made sure he knew what a great job he’d done.

If you have a “normal” child you might not understand this… but this little boy with extreme problem-solving abilities just stopped freaking out on his own, and problem-solved that his brother was very sad, and found a way to cheer his brother up… as well as agreeing to replace the broken toy.

Unbelievable. I feel like God has reached out and touched my house.

Did you hear that sniff?  Yeah, I’m crying right now.

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Our Journey with the Total Transformation:

Week One post #1

Week Two Post #2 and Post #3

Week Three Post #4

Week Four Post #5

Week Five  Post #6 and Post #7

36 responses to “Dealing with a child with behavioral issues: Our Journey with the Total Transformation #7

  1. Definietly a ‘Savor the moment’ moment 🙂

  2. Julie Catherine

    Yep, you made me cry too – this is an absolutely humongous event for all of you; even more important is that he took the steps and made the decisions on his own. I’m absolutely thrilled for you! xoxox

  3. More tears shed here, too! Something is obviously working. Your son seems to finally be empathizing with his siblings and understanding the grief he might have experienced if something similar had happened to him. That is HUGE! I am so happy for you guys! 🙂

  4. That almost made me cry as well. BOTH of your sons, after the initial shock of the broken toy, acted very mature and I hope that good things continue to happen for you and your family Jenn. xo

  5. We all need those rays of sunshine to keep us going sometimes. Maybe its a sign that a certain level of maturity is on the way? Or maybe its just the tale end of the full moon leaving behind a special present. 🙂

  6. And I, too, am crying for you all! Oh what joy what joy what joy! A giant leap for your boy AND your family. Your older son showed tremendous maturity, and your younger son showed his true loving and generous heart. Congratulations! You should be so proud of them both!

  7. I’m so pleased for you. Makes my heart dance and my eye tear. Wonderful.

  8. You brought a tear to MY eyes with that one. What good news. It’s always amazing to watch our children support each other, but when it comes from a child who struggles with that concept, it’s even more rewarding. Good for you for keeping on this. And as always, thanks for sharing your journey with us. I’m sure that’s not always easy–such open honesty can get mentally tiring, for sure. But we’re all taking something from it in one way or the other.

  9. That is wonderful progress – things are beginning to make sense for him I guess. x

  10. Teary here too! … I reckon a big chunk of weight just lifted off the shoulders of your whole family … Bravo!

  11. Brought tears to my eyes.

  12. Jennifer, that is fantastic news. And I’ll bet it’s the first of more to come. There will undoubtedly be some bumps and setbacks, but your progress will be forward.

  13. That is amazing. You must be thrillled.

  14. Wow! What a great story! It sounds like that program is really working!

  15. Oh My God that’s fantastic! 🙂 You made us cry a little too, I think. So sweet. I love when kids do things like that.

  16. Yes, Jennifer. God actually reached out and touched your house. This is so beautiful and I hope you continue to trust in Him even as you go forward with the transformational programme 🙂 All the best. 🙂

  17. I am crying with you. what a beautiful story. Something is working, honey. God is in your house. Have no doubts.

  18. Gosh! I could hardly read the second part of that because my vision was all blurry! Truly wonderful.

  19. You’ve got me crying too – with joy!

  20. Sniff, sniff here too!! Amazing! God is good:-)

  21. I’m blubbling reading this. That is beyond amazing Jen! xxx

  22. You are right, there really aren’t words for how amazing this is – for both children, and the whole family. So, from over to the north and east of you, I shall dance the Snoopy dance, a touchdown dance, sniffle, cry, and offer prayers of gratitude and joy. This is beautiful!