First of all, I posted something last Wednesday. If you missed the miracle, please go back and read it.
Before starting lesson five, I need to tell you something. Last week’s miracle was just the beginning. On Friday, my youngest came home with his test scores… 87%, 100%, and 105% (nailed that extra credit question) Way to go littlest Dude!
There was also a note from the teacher about how horrendous the class was all week. I flipped over the “Weekly behavior score” sheet, and saw that for the last few weeks he’d received a “1” meaning perfect (where he’d scored in the “bad” 2’s and 3’s normally.) I asked him if there was trouble in class, and he said, “Yes, everyone was bad but me. I’m a good boy now.”
I contacted the teacher, who confirmed that he was quiet and polite the entire week while the rest of the class acted inappropriately. Go Littlest Dude again!
Every day this week, I came home to a quiet house. My children all came and hugged me at the door, and my husband was smiling. No chaos. No screaming. (For the most part) Is this what a normal house is like? I’m not sure, but I like it.
My son’s most common sayings this week: “Excuse me Mommy”; “Please, Mommy”; and “Yes, Mommy.” (Wow)
I think now is the most critical time. It feels like we have our life back, but once in a while I feel a slight push from my littlest (I’m sure he doesn’t even realize that he is doing it) but he is trying to re-gain control. (Like trying to negotiate that bed time again.) I need to be resolved. So does my husband. We need to be careful not to slip back into our old back habits just because things are getting better.
I’m also finding it a little hard to get my husband to sit down and listen to the CDs for an hour a week. I use the “10 tips” on him: “I’m sorry you’re tired, but this is the time we agreed to listen to the Total Transformation.” His eyes narrow. He knows I’m right. I’m inclined to stop as well, but we need to finish the program. It’s working, and I want to know everything I need to know to keep it going in the right direction.
Lesson Five: Understanding Faulty Thinking
This lesson is all about how pre-conceived notions and reactions by both the parent and child can undermine everything that you do. Faulty thinking is when we “decide” our kids have done something wrong before we have all the facts. This is one of those annoying lessons that let you know you are doing something wrong, but don’t really tell you what to do about it. The “Homework” is to make notes of times when we see faulty thinking. I guess the idea is that recognizing it will keep you from doing it.
Onward and Upward.
Our Journey with the Total Transformation:
Week One post #1
Week Three Post #4
Week Four Post #5
Week Six (this week) Post #8
- Dealing with a child with behavioral issues: Our family’s journey with The Total Transformation program (paulaacton.com)
- Mommy’s Pet Peeves (ctworkingmoms.com)