Oh, this has not all been a pleasant journey this week. I sat with my husband for over an hour and a half last night as he vented his frustrations. This was one of those times where you sit like a good little wife and listen. Speaking was just not a good idea. He needed to vent.
Where Hubbs agrees that Littlest Dude is leaps and bounds better, things are not perfect yet. He is still struggling with homework. Unfortunately, that part is done before I get home, and I don’t want to teach my kids to play first and do homework when Mommy gets home. We both just believe that doing homework as soon as you get home is a good idea. But my husband is struggling (rightfully so) with a full time job, and helping the kids with homework, too… so when the kids get home… well, it would be easier if littlest dude would just sit down and do his homework.
The good news is that the fights between the kids have gotten better (at least at night when I am home – Hubbs still moderates a few during the day) and Littlest Dude always seems excited and energetic about the homework that he sets aside to do with me.
Last night I tried something new that was suggested. I called the help-line and we modified it together to fit our situation (Problems going to bed) My youngest said “sure” and he was excited, even drew a picture… but as soon as the picture was done and it was time for bed, the screaming started. One thing they always stress is that you will experience resistance, and not to give up.
I’m honestly just happy that I’m not afraid for myself or my other kids getting physically hurt anymore.
My youngest’s most common saying this week: “Can I give you a hug/kiss?” (Although I must admit, it is frequently used to get an extra few seconds out of us before going to bed)
Lesson Six: What to do after your child lashes out (Ha! I wish I had this last night! Boy do we need this one)
At the end of this lesson are cards to cut out to have on hand to help you through the eight step process to follow after a “breakdown”. I usually skip things like this, but my husband, to my surprise, wanted them. It ended up being a pretty good idea, because when tempers and emotions are flaring, it’s hard to keep focus. These cards list the eight steps to get through the problem, and my husband even used it once, and was really glad to have them. We’ll see how it goes.
- How to Help Kids Develop Homework Routines (bostonmamas.com)
- Conquer the Homework Blues & Stay on Track with Early Childhood Development (traintoread.com)
- Kid Versus Homework: Our Music Of Homework Battle Royale 2 (swimintheadultpool.com)
- 5 Ways To Get Your Child To Do Homework (praiserichmond.com)
- Apologizing (spilledchickensoup.wordpress.com)