A mixed week – Dealing with a child with behavioral issues: Total Transformation #13

Littlest Dude rocked his test scores again this week.  After a little friction with the studying last week, this week we started on Monday, and he knew his stuff by Friday.  It’s all about routine.

Speaking of routine… If you remember, my two youngest like to sleep together.  The new rule is they have to sleep in their own rooms and go to bed without problems the first time we ask on the weekdays.

This week they won (Yay) and I agreed to the slumber party.  Problem is, they wanted to stay up all night.  It was not a pleasant experience for the rest of us.

I discussed with them that I didn’t think it was working, and let THEM tell me why.  I asked how would we know if it is working, they both said “We will go to bed and go to sleep on time on the weekends.”

Okay – That part done.  It went almost text-book, although we’ll have to see how it all pans out.  We are giving them another chance to “Win” the privilege of having slumber parties Friday and Saturday night. I’ll speak to them again about my expectations of those “parties” if they win.  They know they will lose the privilege on Saturday is they act inappropriately (we try not to say bad) on Friday.

Follow-up:  On Monday I got a call from Hubby not long after the kids went to school.  He was very disgusted because he had a very heated argument with Littlest Dude about getting ready for school. I was happy to hear him say “I just undid everything we’ve worked for”.

I told him that we will all experience setbacks (goodness knows I have) and that we need to keep working at it.  We discussed that we will have to “reprogram” Littlest Dude on Sunday nights before he goes to bed to let him know what we are expecting the next day.

Why do we need to do this?  Remember, his wiring is different.  Our older children can understand that things are different on weekends from weekdays.  He needs to be reminded and ready, or his “mind” will still be in weekend mode.

We’re going to try that next week.

Other than that, though, the week was really nice.  My eight year old even had a friend over, and the three of them played wonderfully together.

Not too shabby.

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10 responses to “A mixed week – Dealing with a child with behavioral issues: Total Transformation #13

  1. Ok. I’m a dad (bio) of an adolescent boy / he is an Aspergers w thought/mood disorders, DX’d 4 1/2 years ago. My point? Just that we have struggled w this kiddo … We go through different seasons. For the last two months I have been in a fog … So I am happy for you that things are going well! And… I’m envious, too! Thanks for this post.

  2. I’m glad to hear things are still going smoothly. 🙂

  3. I’m always happy to learn about the positive things happening with your youngest. Not everything will work all the time, but I think you better understand what will work with him. Keep up the good work! 🙂

  4. Must not feed the fishes, must not feed the fishes, must not feed …

    Sounds like this new practice is becoming a habit, even with the ‘falling downs’ … WGT Eaton family!

  5. Glad everything is working out!!!

  6. Sounds like you’re on the right track. More power to you.