I took a scary step this week, but one that I wasn’t afraid of doing at all. I cancelled my Parental Help Line. This was my life-line to a specialist for one-on-one help when I didn’t know what to do. I really didn’t need them anymore.
I told them “I have a new kid”, and I do.
I hope that I am not jinxing myself, but I can’t really justify the expense anymore. I honestly only needed it for the first few weeks. Once the program started kicking in, things started to change so fast that I rarely needed help.
Yesterday my husband called me at work frustrated because Littlest Dude would not listen to direction with his homework. He said he finally just told him what to do and walked away. When I got home, Littlest Dude had at least finished his homework, but he forgot a few periods at the ends of his sentences. Not too shabby. We then sat together while he read a book to me, and we started studying for his Friday tests (Starting to study of Monday worked last week, so that’s our new norm).
Overall, he seemed fine for me. (We’ll have to work on him being good for Daddy too)
Then Littlest Dude helped me make dinner. I coated the chicken with egg, and he held the bag and then shook the breadcrumbs on the chicken. Once it was in the oven, he asked if I wanted to work out… so he, 12-year-old Dude and I had a workout before dinner. It was a really nice night. I will admit that he did push for an extra story at bedtime, and I caved. I love that he’s being good, but I need to realize that he’s now using “good” to manipulate me into a later bedtime again. I need to stick to the schedule so I have time for myself after I tuck him in.
Now that my nights are better, I need to try to help the days with my husband to be better. Hubbs acknowledges that work is extremely stressful, and he’s not always in the greatest frame of mind to deal with Littlest Dude. I can understand that – but part of the training is controlling YOURSELF in a bad situation, because kids with behavioral challenges take their triggers from you.
I have to admit that this is REALLY HARD – especially when you are faced with “outside” challenges that are out of your control.
Just something more to work on.
- Mistakes parents make at bedtime (storagebedsdirect.co.uk)
- 7 Frugal Ways For Parents to Reward Good Behavior (familyfocusblog.com)