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It’s release day for my young adult story “The First Day of the New Tomorrow”

Yay! Release day is finally here!

I’m uber excited to release my very first published young adult title into the world.THEFIRSTDAYOFTHENEWTOMORROW-Banner

In “The First Day of the New Tomorrow” Seventeen-year-old Maya wakes up one morning to a bigger than life surprise– powers beyond her wildest dreams, but when things begin to go horribly wrong, will she find the strength to do what needs to be done?

Alien PKO_0003410And YES!  You will finally get to see me explode something!  The Little Blue Lady is so proud of me she could just spit, and that’s saying a lot.

The First Day of the New Tomorrow medium 333x500I hope you’ll hop on over to Muse it Up to pick up your copy today for the bargain new release price of $2.00 (available in all e-book formats)

You can also click on over to Amazon
or Barnes and Noble to pick up your copy. (They may go live later in the day)

After all, what’s a little explosion among friends?

I hope you love my  first romp in the wonderful realm of young adult literature!

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A mixed week – Dealing with a child with behavioral issues: Total Transformation #13

Littlest Dude rocked his test scores again this week.  After a little friction with the studying last week, this week we started on Monday, and he knew his stuff by Friday.  It’s all about routine.

Speaking of routine… If you remember, my two youngest like to sleep together.  The new rule is they have to sleep in their own rooms and go to bed without problems the first time we ask on the weekdays.

This week they won (Yay) and I agreed to the slumber party.  Problem is, they wanted to stay up all night.  It was not a pleasant experience for the rest of us.

I discussed with them that I didn’t think it was working, and let THEM tell me why.  I asked how would we know if it is working, they both said “We will go to bed and go to sleep on time on the weekends.”

Okay – That part done.  It went almost text-book, although we’ll have to see how it all pans out.  We are giving them another chance to “Win” the privilege of having slumber parties Friday and Saturday night. I’ll speak to them again about my expectations of those “parties” if they win.  They know they will lose the privilege on Saturday is they act inappropriately (we try not to say bad) on Friday.

Follow-up:  On Monday I got a call from Hubby not long after the kids went to school.  He was very disgusted because he had a very heated argument with Littlest Dude about getting ready for school. I was happy to hear him say “I just undid everything we’ve worked for”.

I told him that we will all experience setbacks (goodness knows I have) and that we need to keep working at it.  We discussed that we will have to “reprogram” Littlest Dude on Sunday nights before he goes to bed to let him know what we are expecting the next day.

Why do we need to do this?  Remember, his wiring is different.  Our older children can understand that things are different on weekends from weekdays.  He needs to be reminded and ready, or his “mind” will still be in weekend mode.

We’re going to try that next week.

Other than that, though, the week was really nice.  My eight year old even had a friend over, and the three of them played wonderfully together.

Not too shabby.

Dealing with a child with behavioral issues: Our Journey with the Total Transformation #6

Deep breath.  It’s going to be a bumpy week.  This week is an overview of concepts of behavior management.

My Son’s most common saying:  “It’s too hard”

OMIGOSH.  I just found out something that I think I already knew.  My kid is super-smart.  It makes sense.  His brothers are super smart.  So what’s the problem?  His brain works faster than he can “compute”  Ugh…. I wish I could explain it, but it took me an hour to understand myself.

So… something gets him angry.  His brain gets that anger trigger so quickly that it can’t hop the hurdle to “I should calm down before I do something dumb and get in trouble”  Instead, he just lashes out.  He doesn’t have the “problem solving skills” to get past the anger.  No, that still doesn’t explain it…

Let’s try another way.  He sits down to do his homework.  He argues with us for 30 minutes because he doesn’t want to do it.  When we actually do it, it only takes ten minutes.  He doesn’t understand what a normal person understands… that you do the homework – just get through it– and then you can do the fun stuff.  His mind just hits a road block.  He doesn’t have the problem solving skills to get from point A to point B.

This is also the reason he’s had trouble learning to read.  Learning to read is a problem.  You get past the problem with practice.  He couldn’t process the idea of “practice.”  He couldn’t get past the point of “I can’t read”

So what do you do about it?  We need to stop coddling him.  “I’m sorry that you don’t like homework, but that is what we need to do now.”  Period.  End of conversation.  No arguments.

This is a biggie that my husband and I need to deal with.  Don’t invite an argument.  It’s hard.  Really hard.  As a parent, I want to explain myself.  I can’t with him.

It feels mean when I do this, and it has to be done properly (they explain how in the program and workbook)

I feel a little like a loaded weapon.  The program says to expect resistance, and after the first night I dang well got resisted.  They said to stick with it.  Change will happen fast.  I can only hope.  There was a whole lot of screaming when they went to bed tonight (At the correct time, without negotiating.)

I feel like a totalitarian dictator, really I do.  But this is the hard part I expected — the time when the parents take back the household.  It’s kind of like war, isn’t it?

This is not easy.  But each step to “understanding” I believe is helping me to cope with how to solve issues as they arise.

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Our Journey with the Total Transformation:

Week One post #1

Week Two Post #2 and Post #3

Week Three Post #4

Week Four Post #5

Week Five (This week) Post #6

I’m sorry. I like you, I just didn’t like your book.

It was bound to happen sooner or later.  I read a book by a friend of mine, and I just didn’t like it.

Was there anything wrong with her writing?  No, not really.  It was just a disappointing read for me. So, what did I do?  I finished it, and I moved on to something else, kept my mouth shut, and I didn’t do a book review.

At one point, in a forum we are both on, she said, referring to me finishing her novel:  “I guess no news is good news, yikes”.  Well, there was no actual question asked in the statement, so again, I kept my mouth shut.  I thought I had ducked the bullet.

Today she sent me a private message. (Almost a month later) She asked me if I hated it.  My heart sank.  What the heck do you say?  I don’t want to lie. It’s not that it’s a bad book.  It was traditionally published, so someone had to think it was good, and it had a few good reviews.  I just happened to agree with the bad ones.  I would have given the book three stars if I’d reviewed it, but in doing this, I felt like I would have to list the things that I didn’t like.

I have a policy not to review books I don’t like at all.  (Although some would say I’m lethal even when I do like a book 🙂 )

The way I figure it —  It doesn’t help the author any to bring their rating down because I didn’t care for it.  That’s why you have only seen four star reviews so far.  The stuff that I haven’t liked, I’ve set aside (except for that one I reviewed without giving the author’s name or book title)

So now, I’m stewing, and writing a blog post about it.  I need to say something to her by tonight.

Whattya do?

The Hunger Games disturbed me

The Hunger Games disturbed me.  I mean seriously, seriously disturbed me.   It’s funny, twenty years ago I would have thought nothing of this at all.  No biggie, just another story.

Having children really changes your outlook on things.

I’m disturbed.  Deeply disturbed.

I can’t look at a book (or a movie) like this the same as I did when I was single.  Isn’t it strange?  I’m the same person, right?

Nope, I’m not.  Motherhood definitely changes you.  The thought of sending children out into the woods and forcing them to kill each other makes me sick to my stomach.  Emotionally sick… You know what I mean?

I started the Hunger Games as a novel.  My son finished the book in two days.  (He finished all three books in five days total)  I unfortunately, don’t have that kind of time to read, so I was only about 40 pages in to the novel before my son had to see the movie.

So we sat and watched it.  That was three days ago, and I am just about over it.  Now, I cannot finish the book, because I don’t want that sick feeling to come back.  You know what I mean?

I might read just a little further just to “absorb” the writing style that I feel caught my son’s attention (although I don’t think I would want to write in this tense)

But I seriously don’t think I could go through the Hunger Games again.

Callous disregard for life… for children.

If the author meant to disturb people… good job.

Have you ever read anything that made you feel sick for days?

How did you feel after reading/watching the Hunger Games?

The Monomaniacal Middle Grade Reviewer Won’t take time to Review!

I have a problem.  It’s a good problem.  My kid won’t stop reading.

“Sweetie, would you like to do another book review for me?”

“After I finish reading this book, Mom.”

“Ummm, okay, but you said that after you finished the last two.”

“But this is just sooo good!”

Ugh.  Now, here is my problem.  I cannot afford to feed this kid’s reading habit!  I filled his kindle with Literature.  Tarzan, Huck Fin, etc.  It’s all stuff my husband SWORE he would like.  But no dice.  He starts ‘em, but he doesn’t finish them.  He is just not interested in the classics.

He is extremely particular.  He needs high action, suspense, and comedy all wrapped up in a neat little package.

He’s interested in big block-buster novels, which shouldn’t be a problem, but he wants them when they just hit the bookstores, and some of them are $24.  Okay, so, yes, I have paid that much for a book for myself, but it takes me usually a month to read it.  This kid will plow through a 300 page novel in two days!

Maybe someday I will just yank a book out of his hands and say “You can have another after you tell everyone why the heck you liked the last ten so much!”

Hey… he may as well earn those books rather than me just handing them over, right?

Now if I could just get his brother to pick up something OTHER than Calvin and Hobbs, maybe I could at least get a second read out of these novels.

Maybe someday.  ***sigh***